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This woman understood that she had said many things that wounded the other person in the conflict. “That’s just who I am.” In other words, “I can’t help that I hurt someone. It’s not my fault; that’s just how I am.” It sounded like a way to get around one’s negative behavior without facing the consequences.
However, she excused herself from the hurt that she caused, saying something to the effect of, “I can’t help it. In our women’s class tonight at church, we talked about labels.
In fact, as we discussed in class, even “good” labels, like “Smart,” or “Strong,” or “Mature” can imprison us because we then feel pressure to live up to that label, to the point when we doubt our identity when we fall short.
So labels are bad, and it’s really sad when we feel labeled by others. Because when we say, “That’s just who I am,” that’s what we are doing: we are labeling ourselves as hurtful people, or brash people, or people with no self-control. “That’s just who I am” has got to be one of the saddest phrases in the English language. Isn’t one of the beautiful things about being human our capacity to grow and adapt, to mature and evolve?
Our class was roughly based on chapter 3 of the book, Unglued, by Lysa Ter Keurst, and in that chapter, she discusses how labels imprison us.